Human nature seems to abhor failure.
Paradoxically, failure is critical to our growth.
People need to try new things, push the boundaries on ability, push the rules both written and unwritten in society.
This is not the same as breaking the law and ruining your life. Some rules can bend and some can break.
As a parent maybe one of the bigger struggles is to allow your child to fail small. Sounds easy until you find yourself in the day to day. The want for one's own life to go smooth means micromanaging or helicoptering over your kids. Suppose all of us parents are guilty to some degree.
As my oldest gets older, the realization that he needs to be pushing the boundaries more before he leaves the house. Life can be a little cold. Boss's don't want excuses, landlords need the rent.
Allowing our kids to try and fail to see the consequences allows them to not fail BIGGER later in life when the stakes are drastically higher.
The importance of us individually to keep getting out of our comfort zones as we age and keep trying things that we are likely to fail at but may pay off later. The roots of life have a way to grabbing hold.
Scott Adam's book 'How To Fail At Almost Everything and Still Win Big' does a good job of explaining this benefit.
If the goal is to grow as a person or raise a person who will grow - failure is the only path.
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